Baryth - Covenant The bond of the covenantal relationship known as marriage is regarded as ordained by Yahuah. As such, it carries with it the promise of His Anointing, and should be full of love and joy. Marriage was designed by Yahuah to closely reflect His love relationship with His chosen people, Yashar'al. Marriage is a covenant. A an agreement one person vows to another, pledging themselves to that person, to act together in harmony with the Word of Yahuah. That pledge, thereby, being the commitment to keep in all security, the bond that, with passion, devotion, dedication, loyalty, trust, support, compassion and belief in one another can last beyond a lifetime. In marriage, the man seeks to meet all the needs of his woman; the woman seeks to meet all the needs of the man. Scripture, being the ultimate authority on effective marriages, rightly-rules that both the man and the woman, are to offer themselves in order to pursue the well-being, and delight of their mate. 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 says But in order to avoid sexual sins, each man should have his own woman/wife, and each woman should have her own man/husband. 3Husbands and wives should satisfy each other's needs. 4A wife doesn't have authority over her own body, but her husband does. In the same way, a husband doesn't have authority over his own body, but his wife does. 5Don't withhold yourselves from each other unless you agree to do so for a set time to devote yourselves to prayer. Then you should get back together so that Shatan doesn't use your lack of self-control to tempt you.
The Abry word that has been rendered "husband" is Aysh, pronounced eesh. The Abry word that has been rendered "wife" is Ashah. Aysh means man, and ashah means woman.
MAN - AYSH
Men are the protectors and maintainers of their women and they are the guardians of their family. This means, that no matter who is working or what kind of job a man has, it is ultimately his responsibility to make sure that his woman and their family is provided for. This is not to say that the woman has no responsibility to be a provider for her family, because as we shall see by MAShLY 31 and other Scripture, she most definitely has a responsibility to do her part. However, the man is and should always be the primary provider and maintainer of his household. By showing that he is willing and capable of providing for his natural family, he is also demonstrating his ability to take care of Yahuah’s spiritual family. Based on the account in B'Rashyth chapters one and two, man was created to take care of Yahuah’s Earth. Such a huge responsibility was the determining factor in Yahuah creating a wife, a helper suitable for the man, specifically for the purpose of helping the man fulfill his purpose and responsibility. B'Rashyth 2:18Then Yahuah said, "It is not good for HaAdam to be alone. I will make a helper who is right for him." 19Yahuah had formed all the wild animals and all the birds out of the ground. Then he brought them to HaAdam to see what he would call them. Whatever called each creature became its name. 20So HaAdam named all the domestic animals, all the birds, and all the wild animals. But HaAdam found no helper who was right for him. 21So Yahuah caused him to fall into a deep sleep. While HaAdam was sleeping, Yahuah took out one of HaAdam ribs and closed up the flesh at that place. 22Then Yahuah formed LaAshah from the rib that he had taken from the man. He brought her to HaAdam. 23
ויאמר האדם זאת הפעם עצם מעצמי ובשר מבשרי לזאת יקרא אשה
לקחה־זאת׃ HaAdam said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. She will be named Ashah [woman] because she was taken fromAysh [man]." 24That is why a man will leave his father and mother and will be united with his woman, and they will become one flesh. 25The man and his woman were both naked, but they weren't ashamed of it. Titus 2: 2Tell older men to be sober. Tell them to be men of good character, to use good judgment, and to be well-grounded in belief, love, and endurance. 6Encourage young men to use good judgment. Kaph Alaph 3: 7Men, in a similar way, live with your women with understanding since they are weaker than you are. Honor your women as those who share Yahuah's life-giving kindness so that nothing will interfere with your prayers. - 25Men, love your women as Mashyach loved the Assembly and gave his life for it. 26He did this to make the Assembly set-apart by cleansing it, washing it using water along with spoken words. 27Then he could present it to himself as an exalted Assembly, without any kind of stain or wrinkle-set-apart and without faults. 28So husbands must love their women as they love their own bodies. A man who loves his woman loves himself. 29No one ever hated his own body. Instead, he feeds and takes care of it, as Mashyach takes care of the Assembly. 30We are parts of his body. 31That's why a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his woman, and the two will be one.
WOMAN - ASHAH
The woman is the guardian for her man's house and his offspring. She is the keeper of the home. It is the woman's responsibility to make sure that she is supporting her man in his endeavor to provide a safe and secure environment for his family, and also to help him fulfill his Yahuah given responsibility of making Yahuah’s Earth the place that it is supposed to be. The woman has the responsibility for rearing and disciplining the children, making sure the house is clean, making sure dinner is prepared, being respectable, modest and frugal, even if she works herself. A woman is also called to submit completely to her man, rendering herself to him in a way that makes the Word of Yahuah profitable for all. A woman is supposed to be sober minded, not given to gossiping, idleness, pettiness, or disrespect. MAShLY 31: 10-31 A woman of substance, who finds? She is far more valuable than jewels. The heart of her man trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant, she brings her food from afar. She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and tasks for her maidens. She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. She girds her loins with strength and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle... She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her anointed; her man also, and he praises her, "Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all." Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears Yahuah is to be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates.
Titus 2:3Tell older women to live their lives in a way that shows they are dedicated to Yahuah. Tell them not to be gossips or addicted to alcohol, but to be examples of honest morals. 4In this way they will teach young women to show love to their men and children, 5to use good judgment, and to be morally pure. Also, tell them to teach young women to be homemakers, to be kind, and to place themselves under their man's authority. Then no one can speak evil of Yahuah's word. Kaph Alaph 3:22 Women, place yourselves under your man's authority as you have placed yourselves under Yahuah's authority. 23The man is the head of his woman as Mashyach is the head of the Assembly. It is his body, and he is its Redeemer. 24As the Assembly is under Mashyach's authority, so women are under their men's authority in everything. Kaph Alaph 31women, in a similar way, place yourselves under your men's authority. Some men may not obey Yahuah's word. Their women could win these men [for Mashyach] by the way they live without saying anything. 2Their men would see how pure and reverent their lives are. 3Women must not let their beauty be something external. Beauty doesn't come from hairstyles, gold jewelry, or clothes. 4Rather, beauty is something internal that can't be destroyed. Beauty expresses itself in a gentle and quiet attitude which Yahuah considers precious. 5After all, this is how set-apart women who had confidence in Yahuah expressed their beauty in the past. They placed themselves under their men's authority 6as Sharah did. Sharah obeyed Abraham and spoke to him respectfully. You became Sharah's daughters by not letting anything make you afraid to do good.
So as you can see, entering into a covenant is a huge responsibility. One not to be taken lightly. All too often, people think that because they have feelings of love, or feelings of lust, that getting "married" is the logical thing to do. Some people think that because you have children together that getting "married" is the logical thing to do. What people don’t realize, is that the covenant between a man and a woman, is supposed to imitate the covenant between Yahuah and His people. Scripture enforces the idea that the relationship between Yahuah and His people is a covenant. Chazun. 211Isaw a new heaven and a new earth, because the first heaven and earth had disappeared, and the sea was gone. 2Then I saw the set-apart city, New Yarushalam, coming down from Yahuah out of heaven, dressed like a bride ready for her groom. 3I heard a loud voice from the throne say, "Yahuah lives with humans! Yahuah will make his home with them, and they will be his people. Yahuah himself will be with them and be their Mighty One. 4He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There won't be any more death. There won't be any grief, crying, or pain, because the first things have disappeared." 5The one sitting on the throne said, "I am making everything new." He said, "Write this: 'These words are trustworthyl and true.'" 6He said to me, "It has happened! I am the Alaph and the Tau, the beginning and the end. I will give a drink from the fountain filled with the water of life to anyone who is thirsty. It won't cost anything. 7Everyone who wins the battle will inherit these things. I will be their Mighty One and they will be my children. 8But cowardly, untrustworthy, and detestable people, murderers, sexual sinners, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars will find themselves in the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death." 9One of the seven messengers who had the seven bowls full of the last seven plagues came to me and said, "Come! I will show you the bride, the woman (wife) of the Lamb."
Marriage is a Covenant that is supposed to be filled with love, understanding, commitment and the desire to forgive, just as you wish to be forgiven. It is supposed to be enduring, patient, kind and gentle. 1 Corinthians 13:14- Love is patient. Love is kind. Love isn't jealous. It doesn't sing its own praises. It isn't arrogant. It isn't rude. It doesn't think about itself. It isn't irritable. It doesn't keep track of wrongs. It isn't happy when injustice is done, but it is happy with the truth. Love never stops being patient, never stops believing, never stops hoping, never gives up. Love never fails.
A lot of people have no idea, what real love is. Love in scripture is called Ahabah. It is a Abry word that carries more depth to it than the Greek eros, philia or agape (agape is a word used by the Romans to describe Yahuah’s love, but still doesn’t hold the same meaning as Ahabah), Latin amor and English love, to describe this most intimate feeling. Ahabah is the spiritual state associated with the essence of hasad/chasad (loving-kindness). Ahabah is the essential power of "growth" inherent throughout reality. Yahuah created the world with love and sustains the world with love. Scripture tells us that love (Ahabah) MAShLY10:12 covers over all wrongs.MAShLY17:9 covers over an offense Galatians 5:22 is the fruit of the Spirit Ephesians 4:32 causes one to be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Mashyach, Yahuah forgave you. Colossians 3:12 causes us to clothe ourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. 1 Thessalonians 5:14 enables us to warn those who are idle, encourage the timid, help the weak, be patient with everyone. But above all, it allows us to Kaph Alaph 4:8 love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.
Love In Abary, is the expression of giving. From the root word hab, which means to give, Ahab/Ahabah carries with it, the essential meaning of giving to another because you appreciate their worth. It is giving, without expectation of anything in return. The greatest example of Ahab, love through giving, is when YHUH, gave His only brought forth Son so that neither you nor I would have to perish. That is what true Love is all about. It is about giving, the very best of who you are and what you have to the people that you care about.
ARE YOU READY
There is a lot to think about in regard to Covenant/marriage. But ask yourself, what does a covenant relationsh mean to you? What do you believe intimacy is? What is spiritual intimacy? What are your views on raising children? What does the title provider mean to you? What does the title helpmeet mean to you? Think on these things and more as you prepare yourselves to a renewing of your relationship to each other and to Yahuah.
Shyr HaSharym 8: 6-7 Set me as a seal upon thy heart, As a seal upon thine arm: For love is strong as death; Jealousy is cruel as Sha'ul; The flashes thereof are flashes of fire, A very flame of Yahuah. Raging water cannot extinguish love, and rivers will never wash it away.
Because so many people have been misled by false teachings, especially those of the BHI and other "Israelite" groups, I've attempted to gather as much information as I could find on the so called marriage contracts that are runny rampant through these communities. They are not Scriptural. They are Rabbinical/manmade in nature. And even though they have been around for ages (2000-2500 years), they in fact mimic documents that were developed and used by other cultures, such as Islamic, Greek, Asian and Roman.
What's funny, is that these groups are using these traditional "Yahudy" documents and claiming them as legally and scripturally binding for themselves. Imagine that... Some are even saying that you do not have to "marry" a woman according to the law of the land, as long as you have a katubah or document like it. Some are even saying that all you have to do is consummate your relationship, and that legalizes your marriage. And most do not observe or practice asking the father and agreeing upon the bride price, making sure their wife to be is a virgin, the traditional waiting period or the week long activities that surrounded the ancient Hebrew/Abary marriage traditions etc. etc.? I guess they don't count anymore :( And quite simply put, Katubah is the Abary word for a written agreement.
What's even more horrific is that most do not even know what the basis of the prenup for food, covering and marriage rights stem from. Well it's based off Shamut 21:10 which states, "if he takes another, her food, her covering and her covenantal rights are not to be diminished." However, this is followed by verse 11 which states: "And if he does not do these three for her, then she shall go out for naught, without silver."
But here's the catch, Yahuah was giving these instructions based on a man selling his daughter to be a female servant (vs7) and if she is displeasing to her master who has engaged her to himself, then he shall let her be ransomed. He has no authority to sell her to foreigners as him finding her displeasing is considered an act of deception (vs 8). Now if he bought her for his son, he is to treat her as a daughter, but if the son decides he doesn't want her, but instead wants someone else to be his woman, the woman that the man took to give to his some must still be taken care of like as if she was wanted. This included covenantal rights, because she was promised to him, and bought for him, and therefore has the right by the agreement upon which she was ransomed (vs10)
But remember, this woman was an Abary Servant, she was purchased to be his woman. So, if the man decides not to give her what was due her, he then has to set her free without payment of money. (vs 11)
So we see by scripture, that this has NOTHING whatsoever to do with bride prices for virgins, or when a man divorces a woman that he has married. We know that Yahuah hates divorce. (malaky 2:16) and that Yahusha stated emphatically that the only reason Mashah (not Yahuah) gave letters of divorce was because their hards were hardened. (Mat 19:8) He then goes on to press that from the beginning Yahuah intended marriage to last forever, and that anyone who divorces his woman, except on the ground of whoring (sexual immorality) and if either remarries they both commit adultery. (Mat 19:9)
Knowing all of this, why would someone enter into a covenantal relationship, go into the relationship with a prenupt? For security? Security from what? When you enter into a covenantal relationship, you should make sure that the covenant you're entering is what Yahuah wants for you. If not, DON'T DO IT!!!!!! Prenupt, Katubah, whatever name you give it, is a document of Shatan! They are not and never will be favored by Yahuah. Remember, the man that gives his wife a certificate of divorce except for in the instance of whoring, causes her, him, and anyone either of them marry to committ adultery. Yahusha said so!